Once in a while, you will find a friend who you thought would help you professionally and they did not only not help you, they hurt you and the process of assisting you professionally. They were jealous all along.
However, you did ignore the friend who would be able to help you and threw them into the wind thinking they would not be able to help you. They were the ones who were able to help you all along.
The one thing people do poorly, especially today because of social media is read people wrongly. People today can’t seem to know how to find a good person to be in their corner. They mistake famous people for good people and nonfamous people as throwaways when it comes to professional help. Good connections are great, but having someone help make you more secure in life is way more valuable in the long run. You may never need any right connection to be met by another person if you are good enough on your own. A good friend helps you become good on your own. They show belief in you and they help you to thrive in more ways than one.
A good friend does not always stroke your ego and tells you what you want to hear. They are the ones telling you the truth. They are the ones who can see things you are good at even if you don’t. A good friend is there for you without judgment. People lost the ability to read someone else and those signs are key to finding the right people to be in your life. I have studied human behavior and body language for decades. It is something I always found fascinating and because I was in sales I had to rely on it. It has helped me in all areas of my life.
Does this mean I am liked by all? Not even close. Many see what they want to see about me. Many are misguided and confused when they do actually get to know me and see I am not the person they thought I was. There are many people who won’t like you or me and that is ok. You are not here to serve others who won’t matter in the end. You are here to better yourself and live with who you are. There is nobody you need to improve more than yourself because you are with yourself 24/7. You are not with anyone for as long as you are with yourself.
Why look up to others when you can’t admire yourself? Why should others admire who you are when you don’t like the person you are? What investments are you taking in yourself to improve who you are? You will never achieve perfection and the good news is nobody else will either. Just find a way to be able to love yourself. Get good at something and double down on it. I am sure it will come in handy and the investment will be worth it in your life or for someone you love. Helping others selflessly is also a good way to improve yourself. You will not only help someone in need, but you will also learn how it’s done and attract it to yourself when the time is right and you need help. We all help each other in the end. Loving yourself seems corny when you hear that phrase, but love comes in many forms. You don’t have to be delusional about it. You love others and I am sure you don’t love everything about them. That would be impossible and it is not love if that is the case, it is an obsession that can be highly addictive, imbalanced, and unhealthy.
The worst thing anyone can do is be in the wrong company. I always say we are one person away from success and we are one person away from demise, choose wisely.
If you see signs in a so-called friend who is not really in it to help you succeed, you are not spending quality time.
Now, I am not talking about a spouse. That is different. You are partners and you both need to find a balance between time and professional life. You both need to spend time together for your relationship to work. You can’t expect one person to always be busy and thrive professionally in a relationship as the other’s needs to be a success falls behind. That is not balanced. A spouse has every right to want more time with you. They don’t have to be blamed for keeping you from going on more road work or spending more time away from the family or them. If they want more time with you, that is a good thing.
Why do people want to succeed or become famous in the first place? It is for acceptance. Maybe you are already accepted and you can be all of those things. Always try to maintain balance. You may not be a famous comedian, rock star, or actor, but you are number one in someone else’s life. If you fail to see how great that is, then you will always chase whatever it is you are seeking.
I write about these things in my book called Impress Yourself available on Amazon and all the proceeds go to Children’s charities as well as injured veterans. Give it a read.
My 2 cents for whatever they’re worth to you today. I hope this helps whoever reads this in some way. Have a great week!! xo Victoria
